When you have stopped living your life and every day feels empty of meaning......

.............then you have probably experienced an traumatic event which has left you behind feeling lonely, deprived and confused.

You end up living life in 'survival mode' and struggle through each day. You feel there is no hope or you just don't feel anything at all. 

Being traumatised is accompanied by symptoms, some of which might be:

  • Low selfesteem
  • Physical symptoms like headaches, chronic pain
  • Problems with sleep although feeling tired
  • Not feeling anything at all
  • Anxiety
  • Depressive thoughts
  • Loss of memory
  • Uncontrollable feelings, like anger and grief
  • A feeling of being unreal or living in a parallel universe
  • A feeling of being different and an outsider
  • Invasive thoughts
  • Substance abuse can often accompany the above symptoms

Maybe you can identify yourself with one or more of the pictures below:

  • The lonely wolf
  • The scared hare in its borrow
  • The bird that can never sit down and rest
  • The flower on the roadside that is never picked

Traumatic events, no matter if a single traumatic experience, physical and/or mental abuse or traumatic childhood experiences, are stored in the body and the nervous system as unconscious patterns that influence how we act and live our life and can give the above symptoms.

Therapeutic Work with Trauma

Being fully present, a slow pace, a gentle approach and a continuous search for meaning are the pillars of this therapeutic work that also includes methods from Somatic Experiencing®.

Being in the present moment has become a way of being and living during the last 25 years.

I am here. I will not leave you. We are in this together.

To be able to relax the tensed nervous system, it is of utmost importance to work slowly.

If the pace is too fast, the nervous system will tense up again and this might retraumatise the client.

Trauma has a so-called trauma-vortex that tries to pull you into the story, i.e.you might feel a compulsion to tell the story, but this is not very helpful. The process must be slow and you need to learn to breathe with and into this process.

By using creative tools, such as drawing, artwork, use of story-telling, gentle investigation of bodily sensations and work with personal ressources, allows you to talk about that which has happened from a save distance.

Personal ressources can be anything from personal relationships, to animals to phantasies and places - there are no limits to the imagination - and these places will give the nervous system a save place to relax in. It is not the traumatic experience, but the ressources that will fill most of therapy.

I might use meditative practices to help the process, but in case that there is too much restlessness, Walk&Talk might be more helpful.

Finding meaning in that which has happened can feel like ignoring the pain or mockery of what has happened.

However, I deeply believe that human beings are always looking for a meaning in life.

Once you have integrated parts of the trauma/crisis, and realise at which cost you have left parts of your life behind, it becomes important to look forward and see which doorways have opened.

It requires enormous energy and courage to open to a new way of life and to let go of that which has been.

In all chaos there is a cosmos,

in all disorder a secret order!

I alt kaos findes et kosmos,

i al uorden findes en hemmelig orden!

C. G. Jung